We all know the person: That Overwatch player who’s still going on about a bad loss days after the game has ended. The one who complains about their teammates and is never the one to take fault themselves.
Reddit user SirBenny was one of those people, according to his wife, a therapist. “She actually introduced this to me after I admitted I couldn’t fall asleep for awhile after getting wound up the night before on a losing streak,” he wrote on Reddit. “One of those ‘please give me one win’ nights where I played until 1am even though I meant to go to bed a lot earlier.”
The more he lost, the worse he felt—but he kept playing. “My wife has overheard me complain a fair bit when I’m in a stack or a small number of times in direct conversations,” he added.
That’s where the sheet comes in—something that’s a pretty standard exercise in therapy. The idea is to track how you immediately feel after a loss, marking just how upset it made you. Setting a goal for how you want to feel comes next. “Maybe you do actually think it’s healthy to be 20 percent frustrated at your mistakes, but not 80 percent,” SirBenny wrote. “You want to learn, but not be toxic.” Feelings of loneliness or inferiority are things that SirBenny wanted to wipe out entirely—they’re not conducive to his success in Overwatch.
Filling out the sheet from there is an exercise in challenging those negative thoughts and reframing them into positive thoughts on how you’ve improved or how you can. That led to SirBenny’s thoughts from complaining about how “nobody played DPS or countered Pharah” to noting how nice it was that people wanted to play tank or support heroes.
“Honestly, it helped a lot,” he added.
Want to try it out? SirBenny posted a link to a blank sheet. It can’t hurt, and you’ll probably feel a bit better, too.